Once upon a time I taught students how to write. High school students. Middle school students. I was an English teacher. I hate to admit this piece of trivia because I overuse clichés. I misuse commas. I abuse prepositions. And I have a fragment habit.
It can be embarrassing to announce this to the whole wide web. However, for today’s topic it’s necessary. It gives me some sort of authority on the topic—even if it’s just a sliver.
Dozens of students who came to my classroom at 15, 16, or 17 years of age could not write a complete sentence or a coherent paragraph. This was a mystery to me. Starting in first grade, they were taught noun + verb = sentence. The local elementary schools boasted about their writing workshops, but these high school students could not write.
So when I began homeschooling, I pondered how I would implement language arts. I don’t have much experience teaching writing to elementary school students, but I saw firsthand that elementary school practices were not producing great writers. Or even okay-ish writers.
I started thinking about the stories we often receive from first graders. Something like this:
Once upon a time there was a girl. The girl met a cat. They walked home. The End.
Where is the plot? Where is the conflict? Where is the setting and character development? Why do they write three sentence stories?
Because their little hands hurt, that’s why. Because it is a struggle to pen the words to paper.
So, here’s my first secret about how to teach your kids to be good writers.
Secret #1: Boycott required writing.
That’s right. No writing required.
When my boys were small, all of their stories were dictated to me while I typed for them. We printed them. We made them into books, and they could illustrate their stories if they wanted. No hurting hands. No tears. No ridiculous tales without characters or conflict. And most importantly—no negative feelings about writing.
Another reason young writers may struggle with writing is because they haven’t been exposed to good stories. By “exposed” I mean they haven’t read great writing. By “read great writing” I mean no one has read it to them.
Secret #2: Read aloud.
Read. And read. And read some more. And don’t pick junk. Choose great stories that keep you wanting to read–great stories that keep them wanting to listen. If you can’t bear to read, don’t worry, you have an out: audio books. I’ve used plenty of those, too, and listened alongside my kids.
It sounds crazy, but the bulk of our “writing curriculum” has simply been reading aloud and allowing the boys to hear sentence patterns, syntax, and character voices. Listening to great writing has taught them how to write.
But what about grammar? Don’t we need to be learning direct objects and diagramming and making sure our participles aren’t dangling? Well, in my opinion, no.
Secret #3: Resist the urge to start grammar lessons.
I cringe when I hear someone say, “My kids hate grammar.” I walked out of a homeschool workshop when the speaker admitted her students hated this “necessary” subject; her first and second grade students would cry through grammar lessons. I cannot be convinced a young child needs grammar instruction.
Instead of grammar exercises, I chose copywork for my boys. Copying inspiring quotes and great literature provides an amazing foundation for a future writer. And as soon as I knew they were ready, my boys began editing practice with Daily Paragraph Editing exercises (and occasionally with our local newspaper).
I did teach Elijah grammar when he got to junior high. Guess what? He grasped it quickly and for the most part it was painless. I am thankful we waited, and I don’t plan on changing it up for Simon.
Secret #4: Formal writing programs can wait.
There. I said it. Formal writing programs can wait until junior high.
And I can hear the string of “but-but-buts” from the Midwest Homeschool Convention to the classical practicum trainings.
Here’s the thing: my boys enjoy writing.
Both boys.
My boys are both good writers.
Yes, both boys.
Here is a snippet from the beginning of one of Simon’s stories (he wrote this when he was 9):
Once upon a time there was an alley. And in that alley there was garbage. And under that garbage there was a door. And the door led to a dusty room. And in that room lived a thief.
Maybe you think it’s rubbish, but I think it’s amazing, and it certainly beats the girl and the cat story. Elijah is also an excellent writer (fiction and nonfiction).
Okay, so I know the question that’s coming.
Ami, if you don’t use writing curriculum, then what do you do?
- I use mini-lessons such as the ones I wrote for picture books.
- I use web based activities.
- We play games to promote language learning.
- Don’t forget: dictated stories, copywork, and Daily Paragraph Editing.
- And I keep reading aloud and downloading audio books.
I have recently started creating engaging writing products for kids. Here are a few:
- Roll to Write: Writing a Thank You Note
- Roll to Write: Silly Sentences
- Super Stories: 100+ Creative Writing Prompts
My goal is to have competent communicators who love to learn, and I believe we have accomplished that. So far, so good.
I give you permission to ditch the writing and grammar curriculums in elementary school—especially if you are trying to raise kids who love to learn.
You can find more ideas for writing on my Inspire Writing in Your Homeschool page.
Alma says
I would like to thank you for writing this. I just started homeschooling my son, who is in first grade, one month ago. I have been stressed out on how or what to teach for writing. Your approach to writing makes so much sense! I will start following your steps! Thank you, thank you!
Christie says
I can’t thank you enough for this. It is the direction I felt intuitively, but have been severely second-guessing myself, especially preparing for the state-mandated testing ( one is in 3rd grade and it’s his first time doing this). He tells wonderful stories when I allow him to dictate to me, and gives pathetic stories if he has to write them out himself. I was really beating myself up today with uncertainty, but this was a real boost. I frequently battle with fear of failing them and the desire to do well by my boys as I teach them. Your suggestions just make sense to me.
Juan Callejas says
Hi Ami,
Your site is an inspiration. I have been at odds as to how teach writing to my 11 year old son. He enjoys reading and have it ingrained in him that reading is like food for the brain. And the brain is always hungry! It can never get full! I divert myself as to why I’m here. This summer I plan for my son to plow through Who was So and So books and teach him how to write a bio. I want him to enjoy writing like he loves reading. Comprehension is key. Also timing. Just expressing myself… I forgot what to ask.. Keep up the good work!
Harry James says
Thank you so much for sharing this amazing article!
Michelle says
Thank you for writing this! I feel like the lady Christie above – my kids have wonderful ideas and stories when they dictate them to me, but terribly unexciting, let’s-just-get-this-over-with ones when I ask them to write on their own. I have two in Grade 2 and constantly worry that I’m not doing enough. I read tons of books to them and they love it and I feel like they are developing a strong love of books. I really do like this approach of yours so much. Why are we killing the natural desire and enthusiasm in them by demanding lengthy handwritten essays at this age? Funny how we doubt our own intuition when we should be listening to it. Thank you again.